Valentine’s Day

I had a hard time what I wanted for V-day. My bf asked what I wanted on that day but it was difficult for me what exactly I wanted. We already go out through out the year. We travel to places from time to time. We go to really cool swinging parties. We have candle light dinners at home a lot as well. We like to keep things hot and romantic.

So after he asked me this question, I told him I wanted to eat really good chocolate. On Vday we ended up going to this famous chocolatier shop in Soho.  I was really excited to get their famous hot chocolate at the cafe but the line was so busy and the waitress gave the menus to another couple that got seated after us. The place was packed with couples, it sort of lost its uniqueness. I got  so furious and quiet. My bf noticed that I was not happy with the service so we got the chocolate  outside the cafe section and left. Instead we went to a nearby cafe called city girl cafe.  The cafe was awesome there were no Valentine crowd and I didn’t feel too commercial.

I think the moral of the story is that for most couples, Vday is a big day. It seems like people just put an effort into their relationship just once a year. When we really should be putting into it every day. In a way,  I’m glad that there is a day created so people can sort of expect that their special someone will do something romantic on that particular day if they have a sense of decency.

I’m still having difficulty what I want to do on Vday. I prefer to celebrate and do something romantic when there are less people doing it. lol. Hence, I’m going to my first bdsm party tomorrow!

Choosing your mate

I don’t want to sound too shallow but I have to admit, it’s really hard to find a couple which the man and the woman are both attractive in general. Many of my lifestyle friends also agree that this is applicable for n this 😉

Yesterday I read this NY Times Article which was published on Saturday how there are less man on campus and how men and women are dealing with this phenomenon on campus.

I was shocked to find out how these men in their early 20s admitting that they don’t have to work hard on getting any action from women. Also how women are desperate to get attention and will make it easy for men to get laid…

Can you imagine what will happen to these young men when they are in their 30s and 40s? They already stopped taking care of themselves. Ugh, this is just really sad. I think it’s so easy to be in shape when you’re young, you will have fast metabolism so you don’t really need to take care too much of yourself but I’ve seen many young men with beer guts…

I really think that many American men really need to change their attitude on their own appearance –maybe we need the women to hold higher standards ;-P

I’ve also noticed with good-looking guys, it’s actually hard for them to get a date sometimes, I wonder why but I’m guessing that women are extra cautious towards handsome men. Good looking = Players? We many need to change our attitude toward men in general are players; why can’t women be players ?

Hopefully we can find more young women to be more confident and develop a good taste. I do think that confident women can bring out the best qualities for men and vice versa.

Anyways, it’s just interesting to observe what goes on the mating scene!

Looking to Improve

I started to tell people that I’m writing a blog on my lifestyle adventures.

Not only I would like to share my experiences, I would like to hear others experiences as well as quesitons as well.

I sort of feel like when meeting other couples or single male/female,